ings. But they don’t just go away.
mental illness and suicide is the first
step to helping stop this crisis. Then,
we can respond with empathy and
understanding to save the lives of
teenagers everywhere.
And then comes the adrenaline
crash. Suddenly, they aren’t focused,
powerful, or in control. They crash and
are back to feeling powerless, vulner-
able, frustrated, helpless, and angry.
They get behind. Parents are disap-
pointed and yelling. They start cutting
corners to get by. They cheat on tests or
do other things in response to the pres-
sure they feel to succeed, and things
start to plummet.
Suicide occurs when everything
crashes down. At some point, a per-
son feels as though they are falling
apart. They think, I’m coming unglued;
I’m losing my mind. And there is a vis-
ceral feeling that they are falling apart.
Before they fall apart and never come
back, they decide to die by suicide.
Where Do We Go
from Here?
Staying distracted from our feelings
is not a long-term solution. We have to
really process them to get better. Feel-
ings must be felt all the way through,
in the same way you need to drain an
abscess to heal.
Ultimately, we must get off the
adrenaline high and return to bonding.
Excitement can’t take the place of in-
timacy. We have to stop believing that
everything is okay when it’s clearly not.
Understanding the complex
factors that are leading to increased
Dr. Mark Goulston is the co-creator
and moderator of the suicide prevention
documentary Stay Alive. He is a former
UCLA professor of psychiatry, FBI hos-
tage negotiation trainer, suicide and vi-
olence prevention expert, and one of the
world’s foremost experts on listening.
He is the author of the best-selling “Just
Listen”: Discover the Secret to Getting
Through to Absolutely Anyone, which
became the top book on listening in the
world. Dr. Goulston’s HBR IdeaCast
episode Become a Better Listener is
ranked number one of all their podcasts.
He is also host of the My Wakeup Call
podcast. Dr. Goulston is on the Board of
Advisors for HealthCorps and received
the Dr. W. Mark Warfel Resilient Heart
Award in April 2019. For more infor-
mation, visit Dr. Goulston’s website at
www.markgoulston.com.
J ust 4M e P ediatric d entistry
See What Kids Are Smiling About!
At “JUST 4 ME” Pediatric
Dentistry, we believe that eating
healthy foods and keeping good
oral hygiene are essential to main-
taining a healthy smile.
As parents, we know it
is difficult to control
what food is given to
your child at daycare
or school, BUT you can
control what is given to
them at home. Setting
a good example of
healthy habits NOW
will help your child in
many years to come.
Summer is a good time to take
your children on an adventure.
Make grocery shopping or visiting
a farmers market an adventure by
giving your child a list of healthy
food choices to buy. Let your child
pick a new fruit or vegetable each
week to taste-test at home. Keeping
the kids involved in their food
choices will help them eat healthi-
er! It is important to keep in mind
that although some foods appear
healthy to eat they may NOT be
healthy for your teeth.
Foods like raisins and
fruit snacks are NOT
healthy choices for
your teeth due to the
sticky sugar that can
cause cavities.
The #1 cause of
cavities in children
today are the gummy
vitamins. Each gummy
vitamin contains 2-3gm
of sugar that sticks in the grooves of
your teeth, which is the equivalent
to skittles candy. Most local pediatri-
cians agree that CHEWABLE vitamins
are a better choice. Here are a few
chewable vitamins that are available
in local stores: Flintstones, Nature’s
Way “Alive”, Big Friends Natural
Factors and Natures Plus Animal
parade.
Call “Just 4 Me” Pediatric Dentistry
to keep those smiles healthy!!
160 Elmwood Ave.
Buffalo, NY 14201
716-436-2130
1660 Hopkins Rd.
Getzville, NY 14068
716-688-7721
www.just4mepediatricdentistry.com
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