Relationship and/or marriage; these are important phases in a person’s life which have a lasting impact and memories. We are living in an era where people meet and initiate relationships when they are fully grown and with experience in life survival techniques. This is a person you need to critically analyze their character to conceive who they really are. You literally make them your business, period. Be sure to ascertain beyond the excitement and the sensations that come with having found the right partner, what next! This is feasible through having indisputable knowledge of your partner. People like assuming things especially when being together feels so good they think worrying about something or showing a concern over something may end the exultant moment. Most of the silly mistakes in life are born of assumption. Why would you assume when you can look for the answer?
There are some aspects of a person which are relevant to understand prior to opening yourself to them. These include but not limited to; the significant past, health status, cultural and personal believes, drug use, religious affiliation, and the type of lifestyle they lead, how they react to disagreements, financial stability and how they live with other people. This helps you to evaluate your compatibility. It helps you know if they are worth pursuing a relationship with, and how much you need to adjust. It also helps you to know the authenticity of the relationship to avoid being sucked into a ploy. The ability to appreciate a person across all seasons in your relationship is made possible by the ability to effectively connect with them at their different personalities. When you are sure of who your partner is, you learn to acknowledge their strengths and weaknesses, handle them at their best and their worst situations and know how to approach them and where not to venture with them. You also know how to make them contented, therefore easy to compel them to stick by you.
Getting acquainted to a person needs an objective interaction with them. It involves interrogating their words and intelligence to decipher enough information about them, to avoid surprises when it is already too late. You however cannot only rely on what somebody tells you about who they are. You need to listen, observe and inquire. It is upon you to decrypt deeds for better understanding of your partner or potential partner. You should therefore learn to monitor their deeds and words closely, noting any red flags and inconsistences. I know I sound like an FBI guy investigating a murder case but hello, this is a person you plan to trust with your life and your valuables; you don’t just make their plan to mess you up easier by neglecting that integral phase of knowing each other well and at a manageable phase. You will have yourself to blame the day you will find yourself asking the oblivion “who are you really?” The things people ignore for whatsoever reason are the things which haunt them later into a union.
Relationships and marriages are not built on hypothesis but on facts!
Business investments, savings and financial matters; your investments and financial acquisitions are important to you. You work hard to earn, invest and save with an aim to live a fulfilling life. Unless you plan to become a philanthropist to the wrong people, you are mandated to guard your valuables with the deserving zeal. There are shrewd people out there who are looking for an opportunity to use you as a ladder to success, or as loan collateral, or just a dumb person careless with his/her money. They have perfected their tricks to access your money; by feigning a relationship, giving good sex or using sympathy approach, all geared towards winning your trust. Poor thinking and lack of ability to dissociate issues will make you vulnerable and easily accessible. Money is not love, neither is love money. Sex does not become more intense and sweeter with the amount of money you use. There has to be connection and other strengthening factors.