Do not be shy or naïve to query the truthfulness and strength of your relationship against the abundance or lack of financial stability; neither should you rely on being carried away by lust and below the navel sensations. Loving somebody is not immunity against extortion. Right thinking is the real immunity. Know the level of your relationship with a person before you can feel free to let them into your financial matters lest you become an easy prey to a hungry hound!
Plans and secrets, your plans and secrets can only be safe with you. You are the vault, with full discretion on whom to access. Giving away your plans and secrets indiscriminately to anyone is risky. Extreme caution is of great importance. You cannot just trust every person who comes into your life with your plans and secrets because they make you feel good or important. Learn to give information about yourself at measured doses; furthermore good medicine comes in small bottles! By exposing yourself you become vulnerable to sabotage, blackmail and mistreatment. Guard your secrets and plans. Divulge little by little as the relationship matures and becomes more elaborate. This ensures that you do not make yourself susceptible to blackmails and beguiling. Some of the secrets may end up being the prerequisite to the break up or contempt. Disclose what is relevant and important to your relationship and at the right time.
Plans when in the wrong hands can be used against you; to counter your efforts or to sell you out. If they backfire they can be a source of mistrust or contempt.
The most unfortunate thing is, what is already said cannot be reversed and the continuum of events that follow depends on the bearer of your words. You should therefore be wise who you trust with such an important part of your life.
Lastly remember you can only manage what you know.
What you don’t know remains a mystery.
by Mike Nyingi Ndungi