WinningLife Magazine January 2017 | Page 31

How much are you exposing yourself to the other person? Do you know them well enough to let them that deep into your life? Why the risky haste into romance? Romance is not a poison antidote to take it the soonest possible. Allow romance to slowly take shape as you master it, you will linger more in its dulcet arenas. When getting acquainted to a person your judgment should not be compromised by any situation; alcohol, desperation or carnal desires. Make sure you are in a position to make a good judgment of character and read signs.

Below are four areas in your life where due diligence should be practiced satisfactorily before you can decide to fully plunge yourself into the rivers:

Intimacy is a wonderful experience. It is a powerful phenomenon too. Everybody wants a person who makes them feel special and appreciated. A person who can give you a moment of extreme happiness, a person you can get careless and kinky with. But hey, this does not come easy or from anybody who shows interest. Sex is quite a splendid experience when done with the right person, who you have true feelings for; that one person who you can do anything for/with because it feels delightful doing it. The kind of person you know so well, you feel safe with them. The satisfaction is just immense and worth to reminiscence in. It is however not a passion to share with everybody willing to participate; it loses its meaning and value. However, the lure of instant gratification is known to siphon intelligence and leave a person at the mercies of burning desires. You end up making the wrong choices of indulging irresponsibly with a person you have scarce knowledge about or letting someone make decisions for you. The aftermath becomes luridly evident that you made a mistake when your senses are clear and become receptive to reality. That is when you learn what happens when you fail to double check where you stand with a person before you can get snuggly with them. It is important your conscience to be alert and orientated when you partake of your romantic or sexual escapades. You should be well acquainted to your partner. When you know your partner well you are assured of your security and safety as you engage with them. Your safety is vital and anyone who values you will concede to your concerns. Do not compromise your safety by assuming your vulnerability. Such a lapse in self-care means predisposing yourself to dangers. These include infections like HIV/AIDS or Hepatitis B, emotional torture, financial draining, rape or murder all of which are connected to reckless sexual behaviors. You should be able to trace your sexual partner in character and location. Otherwise you will dissolve in to the world of “what ifs” when the truth catches up with you.

You should also know your partner adequately to understand why they want to have sex with you. This will guard you from exploitation, being stripped of your dignity, post coital regrets, from being a statistic or being a rebound ass! There is no specific stipulated time to capture enough data about a person’s character. However harmed with the right mental status and focus, you should take adequate time to fully get equipped to protect yourself from exploitation or hurt. And put yourself on a safe ground, away from possible sexual predators.