Attraction is lethal. It is the mother of many misfortunes and regrets of life. Attraction may cloud your thinking and enhance your carelessness. It all starts by failing to familiarize yourself with reality but instead choose to be a slave of your own carnal desires. It develops in you the need to have, but inhibits your ability of reasoning. It is disastrous. Before I can indulge further I want to give you a scenario: I am in one of those nice clubs. A good place to take some drinks and watch people do things unconsciously as you unwind. Revelers are in plenty, dressed to kill. You know how it feels when you get that one opportunity to be reckless, and some people decide to make it count! Hormones and alcohol form an explosive mixture; the basis of lethal attraction. Very few people know each other but intoxication makes all equal and kind of silly, you need to picture this. Anyway, speaking of recklessness, I am there, watching, sipping my drink, when I see people I can swear I saw them walk in separately, start getting close and intimate and really close. Wait a minute, they are even kissing: the kind of kissing you can define as passionate or deep and gyrating suggestively on the dance floor.
These are strangers, at least one hour ago they were; and now this?! In this era of HIV/AIDS, Tuberculosis, oral thrush and Hepatitis B among other things you mean somebody can really get that cozy with a person they just met under the influence of alcohol and hormones in a poorly lit environment? Mind you their phones are well guarded! That got me thinking and I concluded I should bring up the issue of how well do you know your ‘partner’? What if you just enjoy the night, exchange phone numbers and hook up the following day when you are sober and thinking straight? To know a person is important, to understand them is better. To know is to be aware through observation, inquiry or gathering of information. Before you can decide to be comfortable around a person you should study them well, understand who and what they are to you as a person and to the society, and at what point you connect. That way you will know what to expect from them and what they expect from you. When you are well conversant with these aspects you make an informed decision about them. When you fully understand a person you learn to trust them, be knowledgeable about them and know where to draw the line with them. This is important for your safety; emotionally, health wise and physically.
Basically, it is not how long you spend with a person, which is actually important, but also your objectivity and your interest to get facts about him/her.
Many mistakes in relationships happen when you divert your attention from the important issues and concentrate on non-issues. It makes you see the good only and concentrate on the bliss while assuming the imminent dangers. This can be due to acting desperate; when hungry all the food tastes delicious! This is whereby you consume everything thrown your way because you feel you desperately need to be with a person. It is the first sign that you are going to be swindled. It can also be as a result of ignorance and carelessness. Chances are high that you will regret this. You need to orientate yourself with facts, the good and bad before you can fully declare your interest in a person no matter how strong the urge is. If it feels so good, then you have to study it so well, chances are you are experiencing the magic of a good hunter. You are at the gates of his/her snares!
I KNOW YOU, .....AH WAIT,.....WHO ARE YOU?