Sex & Intimacy in the Pink
3. Putting it together: When you broaden the experiences of intimacy and sexuality, you broaden the possibilities for your relationship. Talk about ways to use these ideas to rebalance your intimate, sexual and love life. Use the cancer roller coaster as a catalyst for healing and growth in ways you may not have thought about before. This is one of the unanticipated opportunities of cancer, to turn it into the ride of your life. Now that you know life is precious, you can rewrite your intimate, sexual and relationship scripts to include more love and pleasure than you knew was possible and then you can enjoy this part of the roller coaster ride.
Sex & Intimacy in the Pink
pause, so you may find yourself avoiding intercourse. Until you are ready to explore that again, there are plenty of things you can do that are sexy and satisfying that don’ t involve your genitals. Here are a few to try:
• Talk sexy to each other. Sit close and take turns saying all the things you’ d like to do with your partner or have them do to you. The whole point of this is to talk about sex and then feel the feelings, knowing that you won’ t actually be doing those things right now. This is a communication exercise, so let yourself go and have some fun.
• Make Pleasure Maps. Take an evening and touch, caress and massage every part of each other’ s body. The point of this is to learn what feels good and brings you pleasure and what doesn’ t. Take the focus off getting each other aroused and become a mapmaker. Be curious as you explore and tell your sweetie what you like and want more of. You can even draw an outline of your body on a big piece of paper and make notes and symbols for where the pleasure zones are.
3. Putting it together: When you broaden the experiences of intimacy and sexuality, you broaden the possibilities for your relationship. Talk about ways to use these ideas to rebalance your intimate, sexual and love life. Use the cancer roller coaster as a catalyst for healing and growth in ways you may not have thought about before. This is one of the unanticipated opportunities of cancer, to turn it into the ride of your life. Now that you know life is precious, you can rewrite your intimate, sexual and relationship scripts to include more love and pleasure than you knew was possible and then you can enjoy this part of the roller coaster ride.
Barbara Musser is the founder and CEO of Sexy After Cancer and the author of Sexy After Cancer ~ Meeting Your Inner Aphrodite on the Breast Cancer Journey. www. SexyAfterCancer. com.
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