Sex & Intimacy in the Pink
3 . Putting it together : When you broaden the experiences of intimacy and sexuality , you broaden the possibilities for your relationship . Talk about ways to use these ideas to rebalance your intimate , sexual and love life . Use the cancer roller coaster as a catalyst for healing and growth in ways you may not have thought about before . This is one of the unanticipated opportunities of cancer , to turn it into the ride of your life . Now that you know life is precious , you can rewrite your intimate , sexual and relationship scripts to include more love and pleasure than you knew was possible and then you can enjoy this part of the roller coaster ride .
Sex & Intimacy in the Pink
pause , so you may find yourself avoiding intercourse . Until you are ready to explore that again , there are plenty of things you can do that are sexy and satisfying that don ’ t involve your genitals . Here are a few to try :
• Talk sexy to each other . Sit close and take turns saying all the things you ’ d like to do with your partner or have them do to you . The whole point of this is to talk about sex and then feel the feelings , knowing that you won ’ t actually be doing those things right now . This is a communication exercise , so let yourself go and have some fun .
• Make Pleasure Maps . Take an evening and touch , caress and massage every part of each other ’ s body . The point of this is to learn what feels good and brings you pleasure and what doesn ’ t . Take the focus off getting each other aroused and become a mapmaker . Be curious as you explore and tell your sweetie what you like and want more of . You can even draw an outline of your body on a big piece of paper and make notes and symbols for where the pleasure zones are .
3 . Putting it together : When you broaden the experiences of intimacy and sexuality , you broaden the possibilities for your relationship . Talk about ways to use these ideas to rebalance your intimate , sexual and love life . Use the cancer roller coaster as a catalyst for healing and growth in ways you may not have thought about before . This is one of the unanticipated opportunities of cancer , to turn it into the ride of your life . Now that you know life is precious , you can rewrite your intimate , sexual and relationship scripts to include more love and pleasure than you knew was possible and then you can enjoy this part of the roller coaster ride .
Barbara Musser is the founder and CEO of Sexy After Cancer and the author of Sexy After Cancer ~ Meeting Your Inner Aphrodite on the Breast Cancer Journey . www . SexyAfterCancer . com .
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