Should I stay, or Should I Go?
Our Love Expert, Rhiannon answers your questions about love and sex.
Dear Rhiannon,
I'm 32 and have been dating a 33 year old guy for over 1 year. We spend a lot of time with each other and
always have a great time. He says he has deep feelings for me and may be falling for me. I feel the same. The
problem is that he says he's not ready to make the next step in our relationship: commitment. I feel like he’s just
being lazy by not committing to me. I worry that I'm in a dead end relationship and that he'll never commit. Is
there any hope of him making a commitment or am I just hanging on to something that will never be?
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Frustrated
Dear Frustrated,
I have seen men get married after swearing that they would never do so. I have seen "players" commit to one woman
happily. I can't tell you whether or not he is the one for you, but I can tell you that he has told you his truth, and that
is what you have to go by. Right now, he isn't ready for a commitment. This means right now, but that could change.
However, that is not the bigger problem.
The bigger problem, and one that I see in most women, is that you are so focused on what he needs, that you are
losing sight of what's important to you and what you need. You deserve to be in the kind of relationship that you
desire. When you settle for less than what you truly want, you cut out that kind of relationship as a possibility. In
other words by committing yourself to th