The Gay UK Issue 3 Marriage | Page 133

LEGAL I’VE DONATED SPERM, WILL I HAVE TO PAY? LEGAL CLINIC by Matt Parr I am really concerned after reading about a man in the papers who donated sperm to a lesbian couple some years ago who is now being chased by the CSA who is demanding he pay towards the child’s upbringing, even though he’s not on the child’s birth certificate. I’m in a similar situation. I donated sperm to a couple 10 years ago - and I’m wondering if they have any rights to make me pay for their child. I’ve never met the child and I’m no longer in the couples’ life as I moved towns a few years back. My name isn’t on the birth certificate and I’ve not been a part of the child’s life at all. If they wanted to, could they get in contact with the CSA and make me pay? Are there any legal protections for men like me? Paul in Leicester The answer to this question is dependant on whether you donated the sperm through a registered Human Fertilisation & Embryology Authority (HFEA)-licensed clinic; if you did then you are not financially liable for the child, nor do you have any parental responsibility for the child. If this is the case, the birth mother will be the legal Mother and her Civil-Partner will be the “second legal parent” (but not “Mother” as the law does not allow a person to have two legal “Mothers”). If you feel that it is likely action will be taken against you, it is best to be pro-active. In my experience the CSA “like a trier” and the worst thing you could do would be to bury your head in the sand and hope it goes away. Sometimes a simple offer of some contribution towards the maintenance of the child will avoid often lengthy, expensive court proceedings. I would advise however that you seek the advice of a specialist Solicitor in this area who would be much better placed to give you a clearer picture of your obligations. If you donated the sperm without using a (HFEA)-licensed clinic as an intermediary This response is not intended to constitute (such as an informal agreement legal or other professional advice, between friends or through an and should not be relied on or internet agency) then you would treated as a substitute for Have you got a be deemed to be the child’s legal specific advice relevant to legal question? father (whether or not you are particular circumstances. write to: named on the birth certificate) Individuals should always seek a n d w o u l d b e o b l i g e d t o [email protected] l e g a l a d v i c e f r o m a financially support the child as professional which is specific to necessary. Ultimately, the child’s their unique set of Mother may be able to bring a circumstances. ∎ successful claim through the Child Support Agency (CSA). 133