Make your brides maids your dream team. Share the vision you have for your day and
give everyone an assignment to help you fulfill it. Do not be the person making decisions or handling details on your big day. Let your closest people know that you wish to stay in the bubble of your fantasy and to protect you from any negative energy. Let them know you trust them to handle whatever comes up so you can focus on the love. Then do just that. Don’t look for problems to solve or ask questions if eyebrows start to raise; they can handle it.
Have a “freshen up” kit readily accessible. Often your makeup bag and other necessities
get packed and put in a back room. You will likely not get a moment to yourself once you walk down the aisle. Make sure you have a tiny kit with the bare essentials to freshen your hair and makeup between dances. Otherwise, your glow will turn into sweat, your curls into kinks and you’ll be wearing everyone else’s lipstick on your cheeks and none of your own on your lips.
Consider a dancing dress (and a change of shoes). It’s hard to imagine paying so much
for a dress you will only wear for a few hours. But if it’s dramatic with a lot of drape and you intend to dance the night away, you may want to consider a sexy weightless option once the “first dance” is over.
Breathe. Surrender control to embrace the magic. You have spent countless hours going
over every detail. Naturally, you feel attached to make things work or even compete to win “wedding of the year.” Nothing is more stressful to the human brain than ambiguity or not having expectations met. Guess what? Your big day has its own plan. Once you have done your best to get things ready, it’s time to breathe and surrender to the flow. Trust the process and embrace the magic. Your day has lessons in it that are important to grasp so you can enter this sacred bond. The marriage ceremony is your transformation. Breathe, let go and become so you can transition into something greater than yourself.
Stay present to your purpose – don’t give in to the drama. Stay in gratitude, covet the
bliss and make every moment meaningful. No matter if it rains or shines, if the cake gets dropped, your flowers wilt, or your DJ forgets your iTunes mix, etc... The purpose of your wedding is to join lives with the one you love. If you lose your way, you can always download a copy of the classic sound of Metallica and sing out loud to remind yourself – “And Nothing Else Matters.”
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