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both die at different times. Your karma are different from hers.
If you manage to improve her in this life, she will be someone
else’s wife in her next life.
Therefore, do not try to improve her. She, too, should
not attempt to improve you. Whatever she is, she is as good as
gold. You cannot improve another’s prakruti (inherent
characteristics) ever, however hard you try. A dog’s tail remains
crooked no matter how hard you try to straighten it. So be
careful and let her be whatever she is. Adjust everywhere.
Adjust with Difficult People
The very definition of ideal worldly life is adjustment.
Even the neighbors will notice and say, “There is conflict in
every household except this one!” Your energies have to be
cultivated especially with those who you do not get along with.
These energies are already present with people you get along
with. Inability to adjust is a weakness. Why is it possible for me
to get along with everyone? The more you adjust, the more
your energies will increase and your weaknesses will diminish.
Right understanding prevails only when all the wrong
understandings are demolished.
Everyone gets along with easygoing and good-natured
people but when you learn to get along with difficult, stubborn
and harsh personalities, you have truly accomplished something.
Losing your temper is useless. Nothing in this world will “fit”
you. However, if you “fit” into it, the world will be good. If you
attempt to make it “fit” you, it will be “crooked.” Adjust
everywhere.
We must be able to convince even the most obstinate and
disagreeable people. If we need a porter at a railway station
and he haggles with the charges, we have to settle the deal with
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