Τhe basics of being playful
Get courageous with sexual playfulness! Playfulness helps build and foster intimacy. Playfulness works because it is a non verbal way to communicate feelings.
Playing with someone allows for deep connections. When we play, our walls come down. Our defenses fall. We feel less threatened as the emotional intensity decreases. We’ re activating a part of our brains that we don’ t use much in the grown-up world: the one that doesn’ t care about deadlines or mortgages or how much we weigh, the one that doesn’ t care how we look to others.
Τhe basics of being playful
What happens when you are playful is that it gets others to be more playful as well. Here is how to do this: a / Do not easily take offense. Just. Dont. Do. It. It immediately transforms you into a tight-assed douchebag.
Knowing how to set limits and respect yourself enough so as not to let others diminish your worth is one thing, being a douchbag who won’ t take the slightest hint of a joke is another.
And the best way to practice doing this that I know of is self sarcasm and self directed sense of humor.
So practice!
b / Become comfortable with being sexually suggestive
The problem with being sexually suggestive is that lots of people nowadays think it equals sexual joking which to them equals sexual harassment.
It is not. When done tastefully, tactfully and cleverly and in the right context, it can inject fun, warmth and playfulness in any conversation or interaction without being rude, blatant or offensive.
Think ' subtle ' here.