4. Vibration of Playfulness
When you present yourself to the world as a happy man or woman with plenty of internal resources( esteem for yourself, and a zest for life), you have juicy, seductive, and nurturing energy to give out, even if you don’ t notice it yourself.
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4. Vibration of Playfulness
One of the most underrated qualities of sexual charisma is playfulness.
Among the possible characteristic that both men and women seemed to highly value the ones that showed an ability to have fun.
The results published in The American Journal of Play show that men rated“ sense of humor” first among all the traits, with“ fun loving” and“ playful” coming in at third and fifth, respectively.(“ Kind and understanding” came in second). Similarly, women ranked“ kind and understanding” first followed by“ sense of humor,”“ fun loving” and“ playful” in second, third and fourth. So what does this say about the qualities we ' re all looking in a potential partner? We all just wanna have fun, of course!
“ Just as birds display bright plumage or coloration, men may attract women by showing off expensive cars or clothing. In the same vein, playfulness in a male may signal to females that he is nonaggressive and less likely to harm them or their offspring. A woman’ s playfulness, on the other hand, may signal her youth and fertility,” said Garry Chick, professor and head of the Department of Recreation, Park and Tourism Management.“ Our results suggest that adult playfulness may result from sexual selection and signal positive qualities to potential long-term mates.”
Play may be fun and healthy, but it’ s not especially popular with most adults.
Even though it is intensely pleasurable, eases our burdens, brings forth optimism, society values hard work and extreme competitiveness which lends itself to the disintegration of true joy found through play.
If and when adults engage in play, it is through competitive sports, expensive technology, or structured activities. There are rules to our play; rules that extinquish creativity that is vital to working through anxiety and stress.
When we were children, our play did not require planning, extensive rules, waivers, expensive equipment, leagues, corporate sponsors or overuse of alcohol to enjoy. We danced, acted out plays, drew. We threw tea parties, swam, swung, played tag, ran, laughed, played pretend with costumes, sticks that magically turned into swords.