Septmeber/October Double Issue Volume 2 | Page 37

even ready to be In a committed relationship? Did I know what it took to handle the responsibilities of being someone’s girlfriend and future wife? Could I possibly still hold on to past acquaintances while still being all in with my partner? Should I just leave this man alone and not mix him up in my indecisiveness to avoid hurting him?  I had some soul searching and soul tie breaking to do. Love was so genuine it allowed my partner to hear and understand all these concerns and still love me; know and accept my past as well as present , and still love me. This love, has been proactive and solely concerned on building me up as a person, interested in my growth and well being. This 20 year old love has taught me a life lesson. Whether its here for a reason, a season or a lifetime I now know what it feels like to take time out to get to know myself. Its even more beautiful having someone to share it with. When I stopped looking for love on the outside,  I was able to find and attract it within. Morgan Myers 30’s T here is no greater feeling than love. I cannot be wrong on this as every song, TV show or social media drama is all about people trying to find others to love them. We may not agree with their ways or the types of love they may be looking for, but at the end of the day we are all looking for someone to love us. Keeping and nurturing that love is where most of us fall short. There are 2 important habits I make sure to keep so that love does not elude me. Love yourself first. It took me some time to get to this place where I could appreciate all the perfect imperfections I was born with. Comparing myself to others I always felt inadequate and did not feel good enough for the people I was dating. Insecurity is a terrible thing when you are trying to keep love in your life. Eventually I learned to look inward and realize that loving me was more attractive to people. When you love yourself your natural confidence comes out and that is something that no one can shake. Stay Honest. Honesty is the best policy. It’s an old saying, but it keeps eluding most of us. There is no reason not to tell people how you really feel. I’m not talking about with cheating, money or other big relationship issues. I am talking about everyday honest. I don’t like what you said to me… honest. I am feeling a certain way today… honest. They may not like it, but they have to respect it. Love and respect are serious partners in relationships. If we could all work towards loving ourselves and staying honest with people we will not have to look for love. It will surely find us. Shannel The Sex CEO Parker