Love
Embracing
By Buffy
Upscale Desires Magazine Natural Hair Guru
W
hen we refer to the phrase
“natural hair’ people
automatically envision
how the hair looks more
so than what makes it “natural”. The word
“natural” refers to “free from chemicals”
which includes perm and dependent
upon whom you’re talking to, can even
include color, but generally speaking
natural means being free from perm aka
“creamy crack”.
If you make a choice to become natural,
thinking about it or already are, one of the
most important things to remember is to
find the product that works for your hair
and stick with it. I have a few “it” products
that you can use dependent upon the
look your going for. For a wash-n-go I
use Kinky Curly Knot, a little of this goes
a long way. Rocking a braid-out or twistout, use Elasta QP Olive Oil and Mango
Butter Moisturizer.
Always keep your hair moisturized
because there is nothing cute about a
dry looking hair. If my hair is feeling
dry, I do rub my scalp with coconut
oil or peppermint oil for moisture. And
drinking lots of water helps, but I fall off
in that area, as well. But I’m becoming
more of a fan of all the fruit infused
waters that you can make at home.
Buffy
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Love at
any Age
20’s
W
hile writing this, I’m
only in the third year
of my 20’s but I can
already say it’s been the bumpiest,
most confusing, indecisive yet
undeservingly blessed years of
my life thus far. I’ve been known
to beat up on myself....often.
Mainly about past mistakes that
I’ve made in my life and with
my body concerning men. Having
come from a single parent home
raised by my mother like most of
my peers , I never felt neglected
or unloved, yet always seemed to
find the need to try and find it
elsewhere. I believe the in and out
presence of my father, as well as
the sheltering and over protection
of my mother ( to avoid exposing
me to hurt, pain and abuse among
other things, some of which I
ended up experiencing anyway.
..bless her heart) may have led
me on my rebellious quest to find
my womanhood, acceptance from
men, and overall love.
I would write poems about love.
Look online for love. Be mistreated
emotionally and physically to hold
on to pieces of my first love. I
got so caught up in things that
looked like love, I was blocking
myself from actually being open
to receiving and feeling real love.
I had some eye opening moments
though personal and spiritual
development which taught me
that I first needed to understand
how powerful and real the love of
God is and to stop overlooking my
blessings, mistreating my temple
and myself.
Second I had to develop (and
still developing) love for myself.
It has been difficult to look the
girl in the mirror and tell her
“I love you”. Such a simple task,
but one that brought tears of
sadness instead of joy. While in
the process of focusing on more
positive things to make a change
in my life, it happened. I wasn’t
looking for it, because I vowed
to take some time off looking for
it. I just kept guys around for my
own personal pleas \