your child.
Both Joseph and Rose are imitating Paul and Lane without awareness, and that is
revealed in the details of casual life. Rose explains why she and her mother are washing
the dishes by saying “Due to his role as moneymaker, my father was excused from doing
the dishes and Joseph was so overly meticulous with dish-doing that it was easier when he
was off in his room” (Bender 37), “overly meticulous” is what Rose’s parents always
praise him, in other words Joseph was excused because of his talent, which someday will
be an explanation for his moneymaker role. And for Rose, remember the seaglass analogy
from Lane? The crucial portion is how those simple word kills all other possibilities,
blank with hollowness is what remains at last. This happens on Lane in a same way, when
she must marry Paul and are limited with words of her husband and house chores, Rose
said “Possibilities seemed to close in on her” (Bender 21). The similarities hide in every
behavior among parents and children. We all lose our perspective during our living.
I still remember the first time I locked my door when I fought my mother over an
incidence. It is when my mother won’t aloud me to determine which high school I wanted
to enter. I tried so hard to convince her to give me the right and power of determining this
incident by myself, but I failed. Parents naturally have higher power than you due to their
position, your appellation, social consensus, and their life long experiences. So, I walk
straight in my room and slammed the door with a subtext of “at least you can’t trouble me
just because I closed my door. That’s my door.” I simply insulate me and my mother by
closing the door, and gain confidence and security by announcing my own territory and
the domination over it.
What I’m calling for in the story above, is the right of choosing individually. Since
our life is constructed by various choices, the right of living by our own. In my personal
case, I am showing the power, control, and rebellion by locking my door. Erin Leyba
further explains this phenomenon in her article 4 Simple Texts That Can Boost Your Bond
with Your Teen that “Providing your child a choice via text emphasizes that you are
giving them power and control and involving them in decisions about their life.”
In Benders narrative, Joseph demonstrates his requirement of being independent
by asking his mother for a door, in the very beginning of chapter 2, mother is busying
working on brother’s side door in her brother’s bedroom, “just in case he ever wanted to
go outside” (Bender 11). Furthermore, we could see from Rose’s words, “But he hates