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Dear Abbey,
My husband's family is having a reunion this summer. I've never really gotten along with the in-laws. They never believed that I was good enough for him. And now I have to spend a whole weekend with his family and we don't even get to stay in a hotel. I don't want to get into any fights. What should I do?
Yours Truly,
Desperate
Dear Desperate,
The best thing you can do is to just go along with it. Be agreeable and helpful. Its unfortunate that you can't convince your husband to go to the hotel because then at least you will have the nights away from the in-laws. Try not to count the hours because you'll find that they will only go slower. Hope you survive your weekend.
Abbey
Dear Abbey,
I just got this new boyfriend and everything is going great except I keep catching him snooping. I'm not okay with it but I don't know how to tell him. I keep finding him going through drawers and yesterday I even caught him looking through my phone. Should I be concerned? Abbey, what should I do?
Thanks,
Concerned Girlfriend
Dear Concerned Girlfriend,
If you don't like your boyfriend going through your stuff sit him down and tell him. If you don't think you can do that lock your drawers and keep your cell on you. When your relationship is new, that is when you should bring it up. The early stages is when you should tell your partner what your rules and feelings are. Hope everything works out.
Abbey
Dear Abbey,
I just got married to my second husband. I have two children from my first husband who live with my husband and I. Everything would be great if only my kids liked my new husband. He tries to connect with them but they just refuse to respond. What should I do?
Yours,
Confused
Dear Confused,
Your kids need to come first. Don't give up on your new found romance but try to get some connections. From what it sounds like your second husband has been trying but have you tried together. Try some family outings. Make sure that the kids know that they are still a prominent part of your life but that so is your new husband.
Abbey