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Pure Love
Dadashri: This is called love in the worldly sense. It is
not considered infatuation and attraction and its rewards are
great. But people do not sacrifice themselves, this does not
happen! People put themselves first and then proceed. How
many men or women are there who do not put themselves
first?
On the way to the movies they are caught up in the frenzy
of infatuation and attraction and on their way home they fight.
He would say, ‘you have no sense.’ She would respond by
saying, ‘you are not so wise yourself.’
Questioner: Such are the experiences of everyone. No
one will admit this but everyone knows that whatever you are
saying is true.
Only Love Wins
Questioner: There are lots of responsibilities in life and
it is our duty to carry them out. In the process of carrying out
these responsibilities, occasionally some harsh words have to
be used. Is that considered a sin, demerit karma?
Dadashri: What is the expression on your face when
you utter these words? Is it like a beautiful rose? If there is
disgust on your face, understand that you have hurt the other
person and created demerit karma. You should say what you
have to say with calm and poise, without using bitter words.
Speak calmly and with understanding and love, using only a few
words and one day you will win him over. If you use harsh
words, he will become confrontational and you will bind negative
karma. The child will also bind negative karma; he will think,
‘You can abuse me while I am young, but I will take care of you
when I grow up’. So do not do such things. Make him
understand instead. Love will win one day. You will not reap its
rewards immediately. Continue your love for a month and then
see its results.