Pure Love
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Questioner: What should we do if he does not
understand, even though we try our best to explain things to
him?
Dadashri: There is no need to explain. Just love him.
But you should also gently try to make him understand. Do we
use such bitter language with our neighbors?
Questioner: But one needs to have so much patience.
Dadashri: If a small rock rolls down from a hilltop and
hits you, whom do you blame? Would you not just keep quiet
when you do not see anyone and realize that it fell by itself? You
do not blame the rock. In the same token, when a person
insults you, the insult is your past karmic accounts being settled,
except in this situation you see the ‘doer’, but in reality the
insults come by themselves, he is merely instrumental in the
process. Everything that happens in this world is settlement of
past karmic accounts. New karmic accounts are being created
as the old ones are being settled. So when you talk to your
children, speak to them gently.
Nurture The Plant With Love
Questioner: If someone is doing something wrong and
you comment on his negative actions in order to help him but
instead the comment hurts him, how can that problem be solved?
Dadashri: There is no problem in cautioning him, but
you should know how to do it.
Questioner: How should we tell him?
Dadashri: If you tell your son, ‘You are a donkey. You
have no sense,’ his ego will be hurt. Does he also not have an
ego? If your boss were to tell you the same words at work,
how would you feel? You cannot use such words. You should
know how to caution him.