Check that you don ’ t have to fund your travel or volunteer work yourself . Then your “ gap-year ” ( or month , or whatever ) would be a nice neat line between then and now . But another approach is to talk to agencies , especially ones offering emp-to-perm work . That way you get the agency ’ s support to keep the company up to its promises ; you get to “ try before you buy ” so you can find a company and work that suit you while still getting paid ; you have the agency with all its contacts wanting to find you a job to line their own pockets as well as yours ; and short-term work will help to dilute the impression given on your CV by the two jobs in one year . making your CV more skills-based and giving less emphasis to start and end dates could be helpful too . Well done for having the initiative to write in ! The main thing is to keep trying - and to believe in yourself .
- Aunty Di
I love him too much
Dear Aunty Di , i love my boyfriend too much and I am completely addicted to him . Time spent away due to holidays etc . is completely torture : I find myself sobbing at the thought of my boyfriend and I being parted for the next
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two weeks . I want to spend as much time with him as possible but then I have had my heart broken before and always look at my relationships with a pessimistic approach . I am constantly thinking that he doesn ’ t love me as much as I love him . I want to stop and get a grip of myself but I can ’ t . I have a constant lump in my throat and am breaking out in cold-sores because of how stressed I let it make me feel . I really feel I need help as I am crying myself to sleep too often . I really need help . Please will you give me advice .
- Becky
Dear Becky , Emotions might be harmful when they are excessive . Emotional ex cess is harmful for the same reasons that other kinds of excess are harmful . As in other emotions , excessiveness in love can impede the lover from seeing a broader perspective . Even normal cases of romantic love tend to create a narrow temporal perspective that focuses on the beloved and is often oblivious to other considerations . Accordingly , it has been argued that it is impossible to love and be wise and that the true opposite of love is justice .
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