Check that you don’ t have to fund your travel or volunteer work yourself. Then your“ gap-year”( or month, or whatever) would be a nice neat line between then and now. But another approach is to talk to agencies, especially ones offering emp-to-perm work. That way you get the agency’ s support to keep the company up to its promises; you get to“ try before you buy” so you can find a company and work that suit you while still getting paid; you have the agency with all its contacts wanting to find you a job to line their own pockets as well as yours; and short-term work will help to dilute the impression given on your CV by the two jobs in one year. making your CV more skills-based and giving less emphasis to start and end dates could be helpful too. Well done for having the initiative to write in! The main thing is to keep trying- and to believe in yourself.
- Aunty Di
I love him too much
Dear Aunty Di, i love my boyfriend too much and I am completely addicted to him. Time spent away due to holidays etc. is completely torture: I find myself sobbing at the thought of my boyfriend and I being parted for the next
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two weeks. I want to spend as much time with him as possible but then I have had my heart broken before and always look at my relationships with a pessimistic approach. I am constantly thinking that he doesn’ t love me as much as I love him. I want to stop and get a grip of myself but I can’ t. I have a constant lump in my throat and am breaking out in cold-sores because of how stressed I let it make me feel. I really feel I need help as I am crying myself to sleep too often. I really need help. Please will you give me advice.
- Becky
Dear Becky, Emotions might be harmful when they are excessive. Emotional ex cess is harmful for the same reasons that other kinds of excess are harmful. As in other emotions, excessiveness in love can impede the lover from seeing a broader perspective. Even normal cases of romantic love tend to create a narrow temporal perspective that focuses on the beloved and is often oblivious to other considerations. Accordingly, it has been argued that it is impossible to love and be wise and that the true opposite of love is justice.
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