Being a college dating & relationships is always a big topic, so this section of the
book stood out to me. I was raised with the “old school” idea of dating, a man
should approach you, let them call you first, do not always make yourself
available to them. After being in college for 3 years it seems as though these rules
do not apply anymore. My experience aligns with Jay’s analysis. They are dating
the wrong people for the wrong reasons, which I have done. The media makes us
think that dating the most popular or star player is the goal, when that person is
not always your type or what you are looking for in a partner. The popular movie
“Mean Girls” shows Cady Heron wants the attention of the most popular guy, so
she acts as though she is not good at math even though that is the subject she is the
strongest in. Going forth from reading these chapters I will be intentional in who I
date and what I look for in the person you date, in how I date, and who the ways
that you decide to make a long-term commitment to.
A short excerpt from this section that stood out to me: When and if you commit, chances are that you
will choose someone who is similar to you in ways that are convenient. But long-term relationships are
inevitably inconvenient. Psychologist Daniel Gilbert calls them “the gateway to hard work” as they
open the door to mortgages, children, and the like. Personality tells us something about how you and
your partner will go about the good and bad days together… The more similar your personalities, the
smoother things may be. And for all the ways you may not be like someone you love, by knowing
something about his or her personality you have the opportunity to be more understanding about why
he or she does the very different (or annoying) things that he or she does. That goes a long way
toward bridging differences, and that’s important too.