OutBoise Magazine - August 2015 | Page 33

33  |  OutBoise Magazine  | NEWS Eye-contact is easy enough to grasp intuitively: when you meet eyes with someone, how does that gaze make you feel? Are you picturing yourselves at dinner for two with candle-light and easy conversation, or doe feel like you’re on the bus trying to avoid the stare of some wild haired person whose constant mumbling to themselves includes the phrase, ‘just touch it, it won’t bite you.’ How we react to eye-contact can be judged by body language. In a bar, it can nearly impossible to have a straight-forward conversation. Body language opens up more unspoken conversation than most thought possible. How far away people stand, how inviting of physical contact they are, and if they look directly at you are great indications of their level of trust and interest in you as a person. Trust, however, is difficult to build while using only body language. Most people I know reduce the level of their conversation to something a little more than small talk in order to feel o