80 Life Without Conflict
actions. People do things that make no sense. They will put the bucket upside down and leave the tap running all night long. They only ruin things for themselves; they think they are ruining things for the other person, but this can never be. No one is capable of ruining anything for anyone else. No such person has been born.
It is impossible to assess the prakrutis of Indian people. God himself becomes baffled! The prakruti of people in other countries is straightforward. For example, if a man vows to remain faithful to his wife, then he will do so for the rest of his life. But here, you can observe a person’ s prakruti all daylong and still not be able to assess it. Their karmas and prakruti are very complex. Their unfolding karmas drive them to do things that put them at a disadvantage and they hurt themselves. Otherwise, are these people likely to do anything that would cause them hurt? Not these people, they are extremely shrewd. They would be cautious even when they are dying, they would put their soul aside and then die!
Resolve Conflicts by Turning Your Words Around
Dadashri: Do you have conflicts when you are having your meals?
Questioner: Conflicts are inevitable, Dada.
Dadashri: Why? Did you make a contract to do that when you got married?
Questioner: No.
Dadashri: At the time of your wedding, you agreed to be aware and maintain awareness when times called for it. In your home, you should not use words like,‘ mine’ and‘ yours’. Your speech should not create a separation; do you not belong to a family that never divides?