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Life Without Conflict
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I had never had any differences of opinions with Hiraba;
never had there been speech between us using words such as
‘mine’ or ‘yours’, but one day, we had a little difference of
opinion. Hiraba’s brother’s eldest daughter was getting married,
so she asked me what we should give her as a wedding gift. I
told her, “Give whatever you want but we already have some
silverware at home, why do not you give her that? Do not give
an order to the goldsmith for new silver plates.” To that, she
responded, “When girls from your mother’s family get married,
you give special orders for big silver plates!” In this event, she
used the words ‘mine’ and ‘yours’. I immediately understood
that I had lost my reputation, I understood that we two were
one, so where did this ‘mine’ and ‘yours’ come from? I
understood right away and immediately turned things around; I
told her “That’s not what I am saying. What I meant was that
you can give her the silverware and also give her five hundred
rupees; they can use the money.” She immediately responded,
“Huh! How can you give so much money? You are so naive
in every situation. You give money to every Tom, Dick and
Harry that comes along.” I told her, “I truly do not know
anything.”
Just look at how I turned everything around to prevent a
conflict between us! The bottom line is that I did not allow any
differences of opinions to take place between us. For the last
thirty to thirty-five years, we have had no conflicts between us
and before any conflicts can take place, I know how to turn
things around. You only know of a few ways to avoid conflicts,
whereas I have endless keys and solutions. I resolve all matters
at hand, without allowing any conflicts to occur. There are some
twenty thousand people in our satsang, of which about four
thousand are mahatmas, the ones who have taken Gnan, but
I do not have any conflict or differences of opinions with any
of them. I have never considered myself as being separate or