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environment must be free from conflicts. Only then should one
talk of liberation, not otherwise. Leaving aside the state of total
freedom from conflicts, one should experience at least some
freedom from conflicts. That is why the scriptures say, “Where
there is the slightest of conflict, there is no religion.” Inner
harmony means no feelings of depression or elevation. No
depression in the jail and no elevation in a palace. If your life
becomes free of conflicts, know that you have come closer to
liberation. You should feel some peace here and now. Everyone
wants liberation because no one likes to be bound. When your
life becomes free of conflicts, your liberation is close by.
Mend When You Are Hurt By Others
I asked a Vania (business sect in Gujarat who are apt in
human interactions) man if he had conflicts in his home. “Many
times,” he told me. I asked him what his solution to them was.
“First I close my front door and then we fight,” he replied. I
then asked what his reason was for closing the door. I inquired.
He went on, “If people get into the house, they will prolong the
conflict. If we fight amongst ourselves, things will calm down
soon.” This man’s intellect was good. I liked that. If people
have even this much intelligence, we have to accept it.
Otherwise, a dunce will open his door and invite people in to
see. The foolish man! Doing that is called a ‘taipho’ (deliberately
involving others in a personal conflict by complaining profusely.
This is a devious ploy people use to get what they want).
When you get into conflict with people, no one but
yourself will be held responsible. In such situations, you will
have to extricate yourself. If you are truly a wise man, then just
continue mending, even if the other person keeps breaking. This
will free you. The very nature of people is to exacerbate
conflicts. If you have attained the Self and if people do you
wrong, just make it right; do not rebel against them or their