vengeful , attacks , win , violence , oppression , abuse .
A worthy goal is to identify words that fit your anger and listen to what you are really saying — the more hard-hitting your assessment , the better .
• Sarcasm says , “ You are stupid , and I am not .” Then it adds , “ Just kidding ,” as you enjoy your self-righteous vantage point .
• Grumbling and complaining speak the common refrain of all anger : “ I want something , and I am not getting it .” Or , in short , “ I WANT !”
• Gossip is the judge who publicizes his or her verdict and tries to convince others to pronounce the same verdict .
• Withdrawal and silence are nasty . They are forms of punishment . You will not show your favor to the wretched soul until he or she begs forgiveness and makes amends .
• Indifference might be the worst form of anger . You simply do not care about the person anymore . You have judged him and sent him off into exile where he can bother you no more .
• Envy says , “ I want what you have .” Broken relationships are sure to follow .
• Jealousy takes envy one step further and
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