masturbate if that’s okay.”
What, you ask? This doesn’t
sound romantic? Don’t
dismiss deliberate
conversations about sex
because they prevent a lot of
negative feelings in the long
run. When you first learn to
start discussing sexual plans
with your partner, it can feel
awkward and uncomfortable;
once you get used to talking
about sexual acts, the
conversations will become
automatic to the point that
you don’t think twice about
it.
Rethink Monogamy
The vast majority of romantic
couples in American society
report that they're
monogamous, despite the fact
that a high percentage of
individuals within those
couples secretly seek out
sexual adventures with
others. Secrets, of course, are
bad news for the obvious way
that they can destroy
JOY FEELINGS MAG!
intimacy. If you and your
partner have vastly different
sex numbers and the less
sexual one isn’t interested in
compromising to have more
sexual activity, you both
should consider creative
ways that the more sexual
partner can get those needs
met. If you’re a couple who
would consider letting each
other have the occasional
sexual dalliance outside the
relationship, make sure to
keep the lines of
communication open to avoid
growing apart. Perhaps
you’re a couple that must set
specific rules: never engage
in sexual activity with the
same person more than once,
only seek out adventures on
vacation or far away from
home, and so forth.
Sublimate Your Sexual
Energy
The first time I ever
considered the various ways
an individual could sublimate