Everyone understands that a
very sexual person is going to
feel frustrated if the partner
isn’t very interested in sex,
but many people forget to
think about the frustration the
less sexual partner feels.
After all, who wants to be
pressured into anything,
disappoint your partner or be
made to feel guilty if you’re
simply not an extremely
sexual person? For the less
sexual partners of the world,
many of them would rather
give up sex altogether than
continue to argue about it.
What should you do if your
sex numbers are very
different but you’ve been
together for a long time and
don’t want to end the
relationship? If either or both
of you feel significantly
frustrated by the difference in
sex numbers and the
discrepancy has been the
source of more hard feelings
and awkward or angry
conversations than you can
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count, the two of you need to
find a way to compromise so
that both of your needs get
met.
Discuss a Menu of Sexual
Acts
One way to compromise is to
broaden your range of
activities that the two of you
consider sexual. In addition
to the obvious sexual
activities, add other forms of
touch and intimacy into the
equation. Include light
touching and massages, as
these activites reinforce
intimacy. If the more sexual
partner wants more, the more
sexual partner
can masturbate, for example,
while the other watches. In
order for this to work without
producing unnecessary drama
and tension, the two of you
must first discuss what you
want from the encounter.
Person A says, “I’d be up for
some light touching, and I
could kiss you while you