JOY FEELINGS MAGAZINE October 2016 | Page 15

what is necessary - like a warm relaxing bath or a visit to the spa – to get into the mood. Redistribute commitments at work and home One of the most common forms of sexual incompatibility is differing sex drive – when your partner does not want sex as much or as frequently as you do. More often than not low libido is caused by mental and physical exhaustion brought about by pressures at work or at home. Here the higherdesire partner can take on some of the parental responsibilities and domestic chores which probably leave the other partner too wornout to look forward to sex. At the same time the lowerdesire partner can hire help or delegate responsibilities to be able to enjoy some leisure and pamper oneself, all of which are great for putting one in the mood for sex. If JOY FEELINGS MAG! stress or long hours at work are the usual causes of low libido, see if you can take on fewer commitments or keep weekends absolutely free for your partner. Don’t give up non-sexual affection One of the first fatalities of sexual incompatibility in a relationship is romance. Couples begin to display fewer evidence of non-sexual affection towards each other like kissing, holding hands on a walk or cuddling in front of the TV. While one partner fears that any instance of cuddling or hugging will be interpreted as a sexual invitation, the other may feels no need of showing affection since he/she knows sex will not follow. However the truth is that engaging in acts of non-sexual acts of affection is crucial to enriching a couple’s sex life. It makes both partners feel loved and cherished and hence more