Your friends and family may fall into two general categories—
those who make you feel good about yourself, always
reassuring you that your partner really does love you and that
everything will work out in the end, and those who make you
feel bad about yourself, with subtle or not-so-subtle
implications that you must be crazy, weak, or pathetic to stay
with such a loser. You may find yourself drawn to both of these
types of supports—on the one hand, you want to feel
comforted, but on the other, you need motivation to make a
change. One way to give yourself both comfort and
encouragement without deluding yourself or berating yourself