Joy feelings magazine JFMAGAUG-OCT | Page 59

Charmers want and know how to please— they are social creatures. Charmers do not argue or fight, complain, or pester— what could be more seductive? First, they don’t talk much about themselves, which heightens their mystery and disguises their limitations. Second, they seem to be interested in us, and their interest is so delightfully focused that we relax and open up to them. Finally Charmers are pleasant to be around. They have none of most people’s ugly qualities— nagging, complaining, self-assertion. Charismatics have an unusual confidence in themselves. Learn to create the charismatic illusion by radiating intensity while remaining detached. Creating the air of charisma: Purpose. If people believe you have a plan, that you know where you are going, they will follow you instinctively The direction does not matter: pick a cause, an ideal, a vision and show that you will not sway from your goal.Mystery. Mystery lies at charisma’s heart, but it is a particular kind of mystery— a mystery expressed 58 JF MAG 2019!