Coquettes are self-sufficient, with a fascinating cool at
their core.
Coquettes seem totally self-sufficient: they do not need
you, they seem to say, and their narcissism proves
devilishly attractive.
People are inherently perverse. An easy conquest has a
lower value than a difficult one; we are only really
excited by what is denied us, by what we cannot possess
in full. Your greatest power in seduction is your ability
to turn away, to make others come after you, delaying
their satisfaction.
To understand the peculiar power of the Coquette, you
must first understand a critical property of love and
desire: the more obviously you pursue a person, the
more likely you are to chase them away.
Self-esteem is critical in seduction. (Your attitude toward
yourself is read by the other person in subtle and
unconscious ways.) Low self-esteem repels, confidence
and self-sufficiency attract. The less you seem to need
other people, the more likely others will be drawn to
you.
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