JOY FEELINGS MAGAZINE February Love issue 2017! | Page 66
feel your boyfriend drifting off, gently say“ stop.” You both have to immediately stop whatever you were doing and focus on trying to connect with each other. When it feels like he’ s more present, say " go," and resume your activities. Your boyfriend gets to call“ stop” and“ go” at his discretion too. You can make this feel like a sexy, teasing game, and it sure serves as a good incentive to learning how to be more present!
5. Talk to each other during sex
Being more vocal is a great way to usher yourselves into the present moment. You can share the things you’ re enjoying, for example,“ wow, this position is hitting all the right spots for me.” You can talk about your feelings, like,“ I love having sex with you” or“ I feel so close to you right now.” You can playfully tease each other with inside jokes. You can also use your words to gently call back his attention, like,“ hey, where’ d you just go?”
6. Change positions
If your boyfriend is jackhammering away, it can be easy for him to get lost in the rhythm and start to space out. He may also be going somewhere else mentally to try to distract himself from orgasming too quickly. Regularly changing your position, speed, or thrusting pattern will help bring his