JOY FEELINGS MAGAZINE February Love issue 2017! | Page 65
feels disconnected too. The act of having this conversation in and of itself will naturally create more intimacy between the two of you.
2. Minimize disruptions
It’ s hard to be intimate with each other when your cell phones are buzzing or you’ re trying to be quiet so your roommates don’ t hear. Try to set yourselves up for success by creating a distraction-free atmosphere. Make your bedroom comfortable and inviting. Turn off electronics, lock your door, and kick pets out of the room.
3. Make the moments before( and after) sex intimate too
Try to create intimacy before the two of you start having sex. Lots of people need time to unwind and relax before they’ re ready to be intimate. Spend time talking to each other and making each other laugh. Take your time working up to intercouse, and don’ t start until you feel connected. After you’ ve had sex, keep holding each other, and talk about what you really liked about that particular session.
4. Play the stop-and-go game
One way you and your boyfriend can practice being more present with each other is to play a little game called stopand-go. Every time you