Joy feelings magazine Feb 2020 | Page 58

First, kids don’t worry about being funny. They’re focused on having fun. Second, kids are curious about everything and love to share their experiences with the people around them. This kind of warmth and openness works. How many times have you seen a kid thaw even the most serious adult? Point being, you don’t need to be a comedian to make humor work for you. Focus first on being warm and inviting. You’re at a dinner, not a deposition. If you remember nothing else, remember this: Stop thinking about what you’re going to say before you say it. You’ll come across as nervous and unconfident. Humor comes from spontaneity and fun, not memorizing one-liners. Really listen to what the other person is saying. You’ll respond quicker and look engaged. Being attentive and smiling will take you farther than trying to be the next Louis CK. Okay okay, but what if you really want to nail your comedy skills and wow everyone in a room like a pro?