And because humor is a safe method for testing mutual
interest, you don’t risk overt rejection. You can casually feel
the person out and segue into asking for a date in a way that
feels natural. You smooth talker, you.
Now you’re probably thinking, “But I don’t know how to be
funny!” Look, we’re not talking about doing stand up comedy.
In fact, Andrew Tarvin at Humor That Works says humor is
subtle and requires very little effort. It can be as simple as a
smile, a turn of phrase, a play on words or making a funny
face. Even then, it’s not so much about being funny as being
fun, and making people feel welcomed. “If you think fun, you
think positive and you think inclusive,” Tarvin says, “you’re
well on your way.”
You know who’s super funny? Children. They’re always
smiling, laughing and fun to be around. They think everything
around them is hilarious, and they let you know it. Are they
doing stand up like Chris Rock or Louis CK? Of course not! Kids
are too busy pouring cereal down their pants and smashing
bananas on their foreheads.
You can take away two key lessons here: