narrated 2,210 hadith!). Here are only a very few of the documented Hadith related to his( pbuh) qualities as a husband:
A good communicator
Allah has provided His followers with one of the best examples of an effective communicator through Prophet Muhammad( pbuh). How well he communicated with others allowed him to effectively convey the message of Islam to countless men and women who eventually became firm followers of Islam. He exemplified gentle, tactful speech toward others, did not speak out of turn, and was masterful in maintaining his emotions, especially anger. His kind empathy and understanding drew people to him. He did not judge or criticize others, regardless of their personal circumstances when they sought his guidance. He kept an open mind to ensure that he gave the best advice. It is documented that when he spoke to someone he would turn his entire body to face that person, giving him / her full attention. As well, he would deal with people so nicely; each person was made to feel like they were most loved by the Prophet( saws). And how he was outside his home was carried through inside as well by his statement:“ The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family.” As well as:“ Among the Muslims the most perfect, as regards his faith, is the one whose character is excellent, and the best among you are those who treat their wives well.”
Connecting
Taking time to understand moods and feelings is so important in conflict resolution in marriages! The Prophet( pbuh) used to pay attention to details as exemplified in this Hadith: One time, the Prophet( pbuh) was teasing Aisha( RA) and he said,“ I know when you are mad at me.” Aisha( RA) was stunned as she worked very hard to not show when she is angry.“ How?!” she asked.“ Because when you
Half Your Deen are angry, you say‘ I swear by the Lord of Abraham’. And when you are happy, you say‘ I swear by the Lord of Mohammed’,” he replied. Aishah( RA) just smiled and nodded her head.
Understanding Female Psychology & Nature
The Prophet( pbuh) said:“ Treat women kindly, they were created from a rib, and the most crooked part of the rib is the highest part thereof; so, if you tried to rectify the rib it will be broken and if you left the rib as it is, it will remain crooked, and women are just like this; therefore treat them kindly”. Understanding each other’ s nature and limitations is so important in problem solving. Being too harsh is never a solution.
Respecting a spouse’ s intellectual capacity; asking a spouse’ s opinion on
something troubling
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