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Generalize: Mention a larger classification that changes the
definition
Change Goal: Question relevancy and switch to an appropriate goal
Analogy: Find a relationship analogous to the belief, with different
implications
Apply to Self: Evaluate a belief according to the defined
relationship or criteria
Hierarchy: Evaluate a belief with more important values
Frame Size: Evaluate a belief for a different time frame, group size
or perspective
Model of Reality: Evaluate a belief from a different model
Reality: Evaluate a belief allowing that we define beliefs with
perceptions
Relationships: Evaluate a belief allowing that we define beliefs for
relationships
Meta-frame: Evaluate a belief as one way of summarizing complex
experience
Relevance: Evaluate whether a belief is relevant to a goal.

Provocation Examples for “I can’t change!”
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Agreement: Great! Wonderful! Exactly! So true!
Counter-example: That’s what I said last week, but … I changed
anyway.
Redefine: Does that only mean that you can’t change this belief?
Consequence: That is one way you can try to freeze reality.
Intention: Does that belief allow you to relax and not make any
effort?
Decompose: Is it only you who can’t change? What does change
mean to you?
Generalize: Life is change – whether you believe you can change or
not.
Change Goal: That’s an interesting belief – and what do you want?
Analogy: You can change your mind – why not your beliefs about
it?