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16. 17. 18. 19. 20. Total disagreement If that is true, I can go no further with you. Mentor What would say about this? Death What would you say about this on your deathbed? Authority My trainer might tell you to… Return to Goalwork That’s very interesting – and what do you want? Appropriate provocation can accelerate clarification and help people laugh at their issues. It can aid insight and integration, and help people find integrity. Creating irritation or confusion can strengthen resistance. Marina Budimir, Croatia Meta-Model Challenges (from NLP)        Universals All? Every? Never? Is there no other possibility? Beliefs According to whom? Who told you that? Mind Reading How you know what he/she/I thought? Cause-Effect I don’t understand. How can you make them happy? Necessities What would you do if you could change this situation? Time How long do you want to keep believing that? Definitions You interacted with her? What does interacted mean? Provocation to challenge beliefs 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Agreement: Provoke a person to mismatch their own belief Counter-examples: Find examples that do not fit a belief Redefine: Substitute a belief with similar meaning and different implications Consequence: Mention some effects of keeping a belief Intention: Find the purpose or intention of a belief (pleasant or unpleasant) Decompose: Break a complex belief into pieces and evaluate each piece 628