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RUMBA (realistic, utilitarian, measurable, behavioral and achievable).
Unattained goals may result in shame, hopelessness and premature
termination from therapy.
ADAPT A VARIETY OF GROUP TECHNIQUES TO INDIVIDUAL WORK
There are many sociometric and psychodramatic intervention tools
that can be adapted to psychodama a deux: spectrograms, behind-theback, high chair, metaphors, myths, magic shop, trial scenes, dream reenactment, locograms, etc.
DIAMOND OF OPPOSITES The Diamond of Opposites was created by
Linnea
Carlson
Sabelli
and
Hector
Sabelli.
The method moves from linear sociometry (A chooses B) to a
multidimensional sociometry (A chooses and rejects B). The method
allows for the illumination of both positive and negative feelings that
individuals have about a person, situation or thing. It also illuminates
the degree to which a person experiences those feelings. It is very
useful for exploring ambivalence, for example, the degree of positive
feelings towards dating (or a particular person) and the degree of
negative feelings towards dating (or a particular person). The model
postulates that conflict comes from having equal and high tensions
between positive and negative forces. Let's say that Mary wants to get a
new job, but she fears leaving her old job because her position is secure
and familiar. If she has a 90% desire to leave and a 10% desire to stay,
she will leave. However, if Mary has a 100% desire to leave and a 100%
desire to stay, there will be high tension and no resolution.
The director's job is to help her increase or decrease the tension on one
end of the diamond so that she is released from the ambivalence and
can move toward choice. We have also noticed that sometimes people
feel conflicted and tell themselves they feel equally about two options,
but when they concretize their ambivalence on the Diamond of
Opposites, they realize that in fact they feel, say, 60% that they do want
to do something and 40% that they don't. When working with the
Diamond, an additional question we like to ask clients who seem
constitutionally ambivalent, is, "Whose voice is speaking the message

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