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wrong. Ask him what steps he took to move toward forgiveness. One
can also ask the solution-focused therapy "miracle question:" "If some
miracle happened and your life were as you wished (or your problem
solved), what would it look like?" Place the client into that future of life
as desired, interview them, and ask them what they did to get there.
Continue with dialogues mentioned above, role reversing the present
and future selves.
HUMANIZE RATHER THAN DEMONIZE The ultimate goal in therapy is
for the client to experience everyone in the universe humanely. The
key is compassion for self and others. Psychodramatists believe that
people do the best they can at the time of action. Hampered
spontaneity and creativity create inadequate judgment, inflexibility,
and inadequate action.
CHANGE AGENT The goal of psychodramatic therapy is to help the
individual change how he/she is in the world and in so doing, change
the world. Challenge the client to make the world a "bigger" place by
thinking outside him/herself and incorporate the thoughts and feelings
of others. One of the exciting areas of opportunity in psychodrama is in
the realm of atonement. Sometimes we have regrets, though at the time
we acted as best we could. Psychodrama provides us with the
opportunity to re-enact a past situation and practice how to better
complete it, so that we can go forth in our lives and make the necessary
amends. It also provides us with the opportunity to re-enact the past
with people who are no longer available (through death, for example)
and finish unfinished business that would otherwise have no outlet.
ADVICE GIVING The desire to give advice is often a signal of countertransference. When the urge to give advice hits, breathe, refrain and
say nothing. After the session, process your desire to give advice.
HOMEWORK Make behavioral homework assignments a regular and
routine part of the session. The obvious purpose is to re-enforce
empowerment outside the session and integrate and further the work
of the session in the client's general life experience. Our most difficult
job is to help the client chunk down here and now goals that are
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