How to Coach Yourself and Others Popular Models for Coaching | Page 94

don’t say say Don’t get depressed about it I can understand why you feel depressed I think both of us may have contributed to what happened How might you be able to improve … It’s all your fault You’re not good at all at … - - - . Go out with friends, meet people, speak with people, call your mother or friend Give yourself a treat (one Belgian chocolate per day …): Take that subscription you have been thinking of: go to the sauna, to the gym, to the swimming pool, to the theatre, to the movies, to the dance-hall, take a course in …. , Celebrate your successes: reward yourself for things you bring to a good end. Go to bed in time Book a city trip, plan a vacation, drive to the beach next weekend Spread positivity: smile when addressing somebody, give more (sincere) compliments, thank people for little things they do for you, acknowledge positive actions by others, … Finish any unsolved business that is bugging you Make a new commitment or keep an old one that you have been neglecting 5. Be acceptive: be respectful, don’t moralize, don’t judge Show coachees you accept them as they are: unique human beings with their own standards, values and feelings. Give them your full and undivided attention. Acknowledge what they say. Show you are on their side. Give 96