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- may fear hidden judgments
- may feel they are not truly accepted as they are
If, on the other hand, the coachee feels his coach is congruent,
coaches may
- feel they enjoy an authentic contact with their coach
- feel “connected” with the coach: heard, accepted and
supported
- evaluate the communication as more honest and more clear
- find it more easy to express themselves openly and honestly
A congruent person is a committed person, who is “present” in
his relationships and in all he does and says. He’s lived a real
life to become real. He will react honestly and openly to every
new element in the communication. He will not work with
hidden agendas. He will prioritize inner values to external
standards and expectations

4. Be positive
There is no such thing as failure: defeat is nothing but education.
It is the first step to something better. Falling is not the end, as
long as you get on your feet again and continue the journey.
The power of positivity is such that some lifestyle-gurus
recommend banishing all negativity from our lives. Nothing is
bad to them. At worst, it is “less good”. An approach is never
wrong, but it may be “less successful” or “less promising”. An
answer never wrong, but eventually only “interesting”.
It is my opinion that we must remain honest: bad things do
happen to good people. Malicious people do exist. Moreover, in
a total different perspective, elephants will never fly, no matter
how hard they try.
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