How to Coach Yourself and Others Popular Models for Coaching | Page 58

personal, rather than about behavior. "You're just not very good at
this, are you?"
0 Withholding
Withholding any response from the coachee, judging the coachee or
his or her behaviors

7) Receiving Feedback:
Hearing and asking about information that mirrors back how a
response came across, taking that in, reflecting upon it, asking
more questions about it, integrating what one finds useful in
order to improve performance toward a desired outcome.
5 Celebrating and Implementing
Actively seeking and making comments of appreciation, celebrating
the information as useful for improvement, recognizing how the
sensory information suggests patterns that call for implementing a
change in behavior, making plans for integrating it and enhancing
one's performance.
4 Questioning and Clarifying
Questioning the information by seeking clarification, asking for more
details about when, where, how, etc., reflecting upon the information
and making statements about how it fits or doesn't fit. Coachee in a
state of interest, curiosity, etc.
3 Acceptance and Exploration
Accepting the information by acknowledging it and exploring it, "Yes
I remember doing that. What did that mean to you?" "How did that
affect him?" Some exploration and clarification, but coachee
generally in a neutral state or a slightly negative one with low levels
of anger, fear, stress, etc.

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