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6) Giving Feedback:
Saying words with the support of gestures, movements,
voice tone, etc. that both provides support and a mirroring
back to the coachee of a specific behavior that leads to an
improvement in performance, state, belief, etc.
5 Measured Steps
The information is delivered with measured steps for improvement,
offered in a tentative way so the coachee can reflect on it, given in a
way that invites responsibility, and that even excites the coachee to
make even more positive changes.
4 Individualized and Balanced
Giving the sensory-based information in a way that the coachee
evaluates as respectful, given in slow (patient), measured, and calm
way. Information is individualized to the person, precise to his or
her situation, balanced with support, and in a way that opens up new
possibilities for the coachee.
3 Specific and Sensory Based
Giving specific information that is see-hear-feel so the coachee can
easily recognize and acknowledge it, giving it by pacing coachee's
experience, giving information that's factual, concise, succinct,
relevant, and useable for moving on toward objectives.
2 Convoluted
Giving convoluted and/or vague feedback that is not sensory based
in description, using one's own values and criteria about the
behavior rather than the coachee's criteria. "I think you ought to
really stop thinking being egocentric about that job, and develop
your skills."
1 Negative
Giving feedback quickly without much thought (impatiently),
without much consider about the state it would induce the coachee
into, criticizing, blaming, arguing, telling, making the information

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