How to Coach Yourself and Others Popular Models for Coaching | Page 53

1 Fiddling
Listening with no or little eye-contact, fiddling with other things,
failing to follow up statements expressing emotion, seemingly
preoccupied with other things. Little or no attention to context and
atmosphere to deal with noises, distractions, etc.
0 Impatience
Indicates of little interest: failing to track the content, repeatedly
asking "What did you just say?", firing off questions without time to
respond. Interrupting. Making statements of judgment, evaluation,
blame and interpretations.

3) Questioning:
Asking a person to turn reflect inwardly to respond with
ideas, answers, resources, and solutions, inquiring about
the coachee's world of ideas, beliefs, frames, goals, etc.
5 Creating Movement
Asking that frames and explores structure, that challenges in a
personal and intimate way, that creates forward movement, that the
coachee evaluates as getting to the heart of things.
4 Inviting Higher Awareness
Asking that invites awareness and meta-awareness, that puts
coachee at a choice, that produces energy for finding solutions,
inviting coachee to be solution-focused, collaborative, and playful.
3 Open Ended Questions
Asking that invites a search without a prescribed end, asking for
information in an open-ended way so there's no wrong answer
("How do you best like to relax?"), to elicit relevant and pertinent
answers, that shifts attention to what's productive for moving
toward outcome.

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