How to Coach Yourself and Others Popular Models for Coaching

2 Leading Questions Asking questions that lead to prescribe answer ("Don't you want to handle this situation using X ?") so that coachee either feels controlled and dominated in the conversation, or begins resisting the question and not playing the conversation coaching game. 1 Closed Questions Asking closed-ended questions, rhetorical questions, and "nosy" questions about irrelevant details and content. 0 Telling and Advice-Giving Telling, storytelling, and giving of personal judgments, no questioning. 4) Meta-Questioning: Asking question about previous questions, asking about one's mind-body states and about higher level states of awareness. Meta-Questioning invites a coachee to explore higher frames of mind, that is, thoughts and feelings about thoughts and feelings. 5 FBI-Frame By Implication Asking richly layered frame by implication (FBI) questions (loaded with lots of presuppositions) which facilitate a paradigm shift for coachee. Using language patterns that have layers of phrases that presuppose the coachee's values, outcomes, best dreams and which elicit the most relevant states, "How surprised will you be this next week when you find yourself using this new frame so that you stay comfortable and yet excited as you make that presentation, just how much will that fit into your primary goal, and how much will that enrich your sense of self?" FBI questions have significant effect. 54

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