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How to keep people motivated even on a boring project?
– If you are having trouble keeping people awake with your subject matter when
speaking publicly, try asking an open-ended question that requires audience
participation.
– Ask for volunteers to share relevant experiences. If there is silence, share something
yourself, and ask if anyone can relate to your experience.
– Go back to the basics: are you speaking in a dynamic and engaging tone? Are you
using eye contact? How is your body language? Can you make your material any more
interesting while you are speaking?
When Trying Is Not Working…
1. MOVE ON.
Part of being emotionally intelligent is being able to read people and situations while
knowing how we are feeling and coming across. If a person or situation is a lost cause,
it’s okay to let it go. Do not waste your valuable time and energy any more than is
necessary (assuming that you have made reasonable attempts.)
2. WORK ON YOU.
Stay focused on what you can do better rather than change someone else’s behaviors.
In the end, each person is responsible for his or her own behavior: not others’ behavior.
3. DO NOT TRY TOO HARD.
Stop trying to please everyone. The person who is always trying to help everyone is the
first one to get knocked down. In other words, people do not appreciate someone trying
to help them, and they often will take out their frustration on the very person who is
TRYING.
Sample situations:
1. Someone at work is being just impossible
Think: What is the problem?
What could solve the problem?
2. For some reason, we are unable to get our point across
Adjust. If one thing isn’t working, try another.
Rework. Gear message to better suit the listener’s style.
Ask. Find out if you are making sense, or if not, why?
3. We feel sad, irritable, frustrated, stressed, unappreciated, etc.
Time Out. Take a few minutes away from the situation to figure out why you are
feeling these ways Work. Focus on feeling better before tackling interactions
(focus on breathing, focus on feelings, step into the other person’s shoes.)