How to Coach Yourself and Others How to Influence, Persuade and Motivate | Page 415
Display Compassion
Display a deep level of compassion for the problems and difficulties that
other people are experiencing on a daily basis. Everyone moves through
difficult periods of their lives. During moments like these we seek
understanding and compassion from others. Yes, others may not know
what we are going through, however if they are able to understand and
sympathize with us, than that makes us feel comfortable and secure within
their presence. This naturally leads to honor and a deep level of respect
for the other person.
Show Genuine Interest & Support
Showing a genuine interest in other people and supporting their passions,
ideas and ventures naturally brings you closer together and helps develop
deep levels of rapport and respect. Ask others about the good things in
their lives, about the things that make them smile, or the things that bring
a happy tear to their eye. It is these things that will stimulate a deep
emotional bond between the two of you, and will help grow the honor and
respect they feel when within your presence.
Display Patience with People
Often people need time. Time to learn a new skill, to let go of an
unresourceful habit, or simply time to open up and express their true
feelings and needs. When others feel that they are not being rushed,
hurried or forced into something by others, this naturally brings about a
feeling of comfort and calm within their body and mind. It is therefore
better to ask a person questions that will lead them to find their own
motivation and answers, rather than to instruct or lecture them about the
possible solutions.
Cultivate Discipline
People are naturally drawn to those who display a deep level of discipline
in thought, word and action. Discipline brings about certainty. When they
are certain that you are disciplined enough to follow through on what you
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