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Methods for Gaining Honor
When others perceive you as being honorable, you ultimately win their
respect and approval. They openly acknowledge you as a person and
support your beliefs, values and the convictions and ideas you stand for.
In order to gain honor from others, you must cultivate the following
qualities:

Show Willingness to be Taught
Openly show a willingness to be taught by other people. We cannot be an
expert at everything, and we certainly do not know all that there is to
know about a certain subject, person or topic. When you open yourself up
to be taught by others, you are unlocking a variety of new perspectives
and ideas that will help you to clarify what you know, while potentially
providing you with greater insights into areas you may not be familiar
with.

Display Consistency
Be consistent in thought, word and action. People are drawn to
“certainty”. They want “certainty” in their lives. They want to know and
be able to predict what will happen next, what a person will say or do, and
what the world will look like tomorrow, next week, next month and so
forth. When you are consistent in thought, word and action, others will
see you as being someone who who brings them comfort and certainty.

Display Unconditional Acceptance
Most people are tough on the exterior while at the same time very selfconscious on the interior. They want to feel that they are being accepted
by others no matter what mistakes they may have made in the past or are
making in the moment. When you show unconditional acceptance of
another person, you are automatically displaying a deep level of care and
respect that makes the other person feel comfortable and secure within
your presence.
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