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Rule Seven: Did I Mention People Are Self-Absorbed?
This may sound like a reiteration of rule one, but I believe the applications extend beyond
relationships and your emotional state. The fact that people tend to be too concerned about
themselves to give you much attention, that people tend to be lonelier, more emotional and feel
differently than they let on applies to how you view the world.
If anything this perspective should make you more proactive and independent. Once I started really
learning these rules, it made far more sense that I needed to take charge. By placing your
individual happiness in the hands of another person (or people), you ignore all these rules and do
so at your own peril.
I like to take an optimistic, but realistic view of people. People who are generally try their best, but
make mistakes and suffer from unintended self-absorption. In other words, they are basically like
you.

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